Winning or achieving by bringing another down,
An evil grin resulting from someone’s frown,
Chopping off a King’s head to snatch the crown,
Floating on the water by making one drown,
Gives what satisfaction? Compared to a smile from a clown,
Or making our own chocolate cake in a rich brown,
Or stitching for our mother a hand made gown,
Or laying down one’s life for saving a whole town!
Welcome to India. The land of spicy food, sarees, billions of Gods, Bollywood, unique culture and whatnot. We have basically everything here! Well, almost. But what we do have, and something which I am personally very proud of (since I’m a part of one!) are the IITs, the Indian Institutes of Technology. They are the best Engineering colleges in India without hesitation and definitely one among the best in the world. Everybody in the country wants to be a part of these institutes at some part of the time or the other. But the number of IITs is 16 only, with a cumulative take-in of nearly 11,000. And with a population of 120 crores, it is clear that not everyone gets the Brand IIT on them.
This leads to the next obvious question: Who are those few? The answer to this is the JEE, arguably the toughest exam in the world. Children now are made to start preparing for it from as early as the 6th grade, when they probably don’t even know the expansion of the acronym IIT! This leads to immense cut-throat competition amongst the children to scramble to become one amongst the top 11,000 of the country. The word topper becomes a nickname of sorts which is desired by all but is destined to be given to only one with the others left in a fit of anger and revenge on that person. It leads to the destruction of many friendships and relationships. The innocent and fragile mind of a child is made to work against his peers and develop a feeling of selfishness.
The children go to really extreme measures due to their immaturity, such as telling a peer that an assignment which was supposed to be given today has been postponed and that undoubting peer doesn’t submit his paper and loses marks. Another few may also distract their peers during the whole day and prevent them from studying on the eve of an exam and they themselves may have already prepared for the same. Such criminal ideas are not their own, they are induced upon them by parents, teachers and many other factors.
Later on, when they become adults and start working, competitiveness to get a promotion before one’s colleagues, office politics, trying to score brownie points with the boss by foul-mouthing fellow employees and other such things are all the result of the competitive rat race mentality. Human beings are the only animals who can effectively communicate with each other at such a highly sophisticated level. And we, instead of working together to improve the world around us, are working against each other to come up on top.
The extent of this mentality is so pathetic and sadistic that some section people believe in deriving pleasure from the failure of the other person, even at the cost of one’s own failure. Can it seriously get any worse!? The term “Survival of the fittest” is slowly being turned into “Survival of the contest!”
I understand that not everyone gets everything they want in life, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t let others have it! Instead of wasting your energy on messing up that person’s life, if you put a part of that energy in developing and improving your own life and trying to achieve what you want, you will get it! Where there is a will, there WILL be away! You just have to look around properly! Have faith in yourself! You can do it!
I made it into IIT Bombay in spite of millions of obstacles like bad friends, girls, movies, Facebook, gaming, texting, WhatsApp, mood swings and every other possible distraction for a teenager, but I made it in the end! If I can, so can you! Nothing is impossible until you decide it is, and your decisions aren’t valid until you’ve tried! So go for it, don’t think about what the others are up to, you decide for yourself what is right and what is not. Achieving something by suppressing someone has no high in it, but struggling hard, losing blood, sweat, food and sleep over it and finally achieving it has that feeling with it which is greater than the achievement itself!
A woman is revered as a goddess in ancient times. But in recent times “Is she seen as an epitome to represent a nation? Is she still considered as a nation’s pride? Not any more rather than seeing her as a harbinger of happiness. She is seen as an Albatross in the whole world. Her life has become worse than purgatory.
The beleaguered women have no ray of hope or no reason for happiness. This is an incident in Bihar where every female child is killed after birth. There was a woman who always dreamt of a baby girl when she was pregnant. Later she got a dream, saying she doesn’t want to come out into this merciless world. She doesn’t want to become a burden to her family. Anyways she is sure to be killed as soon as she comes into this brutal world.
She didn’t want her baby to suffer so; she hanged up herself the next day. This is the plight of many women across various parts of the world. Her life is in peril. Every minute, every second she leads a spasmodic and erratic life. Every day we come across how women are infidelity and killed brutally. The world is having a heaving dearth of chivalrous men. But she never raised her voice against the brutality she is undergoing. She still waits for a new scintillation to come into her life with a new hope for mirth and gaiety to enter her life.
But it’s high time where women have to raise their voice against these callous deeds. How long will she wait for someone to bulwark her all the time. Although these days, we see women working equally along with men in this 21st century, even then the women in the countryside are still forbidden to dream about their life. Awareness needs to be created among these country people so that they would encourage even their own creed. I remember reading an article in a magazine which said “There was an 18 year old girl who always dreamt of her successful future but no one encouraged her. Seeing her zeal in studies and the desire to accomplish her dream, the head of the village asked her what she wants to pursue.
She said she wants to become a doctor and treat all the people of her village with the best she could do. To her delight, he told that he would make her realize her dream, but she lamented that no one in the village is with her to achieve her goal. He fought against all those people. Finally, after a long brawl they agreed. He, along with the helping hand of all villagers, we're ready to help her. Her joy knew no bounds. She toiled day and night to become a doctor. One fine day, she returned to her village as a doctor. She was the first girl in the village to study medicine. She thanked that village head from the core of her heart. Now she is a successful woman.
We generally see and read many such stories about these kinds of women who reached the pinnacle despite the unavoidable circumstances. As they say “Where there is a will there is a way”. But it’s quiet excruciating to know that women are not instigated to reach to study even in educating families and are married off at a young age. Remember all the humans in the world are given freedom to realize their dreams then why not women.
Without a woman, there is no successful man, if not a crucial part she might have at least instigated him to do that. Never make her feel that she is an encumbrance to this world. It’s not required to worship her. At least treat her as a human. We need to acknowledge the unknown known sacrifices which she has rendered to us.